On Daddy Issues.

According to attachment theory, our attachment styles in adult relationships were established when we were mere babes, based on our relationships with our primary caregivers, or parents. I just realized that this year I’m working through my relationships with my parents through my relationships with men. The idea of daddy issues suddenly popped up for […]

On giving yourself permission…to be bad.

When I reflect on the tumultuous romantic relationships I’ve had in 2013, I realize that there’s a huge theme here. For the first time in my life, I’m allowing myself to get involved with the following (THIS IS SO NOT ME): politically incorrect men; masculine men with high sex drives; “married men”; emotionally unavailable men; […]

On Casual Sex.

It’s been over a week since I had that God-awful experience with “married guy” and my reflections have been plenty. But today’s reflective question which keeps spiraling around my thoughts is, since when did casual sex = treating people shit??? The second time I hung out with “married guy” after meeting him at this club […]

On sleeping with a married man. Part I.

I’m not sure it’s true. Someone he knew mentioned a wife to my friend the night I met him. But the way he was on the hunt that night and the way he acts I mean…I just can’t believe he’s married. Divorced, separated, a girlfriend perhaps…but there’s no way he’s in a committed relationship with […]