On Being Single at Thirty-One. Hello 2014!

I am a Thirty-one year old single woman who  loves her life the way it is. I have so many creative pursuits.  I have my own cozy little apartment that’s a constant art project in progress. I have a fulfilling career. I cultivate deep and profound friendships, of which I have so many. I am […]

On giving yourself permission…to be bad.

When I reflect on the tumultuous romantic relationships I’ve had in 2013, I realize that there’s a huge theme here. For the first time in my life, I’m allowing myself to get involved with the following (THIS IS SO NOT ME): politically incorrect men; masculine men with high sex drives; “married men”; emotionally unavailable men; […]

On a letter to a lover.

Dear S. It’s been just under two months and we’ve had such an intense and bumpy beginning. I’ve spent the weekend intellectualizing and trying to analyze our dynamic and unresolvable tensions with my friends. Worrying where this is going. Why we can’t seem to give each other what we need. What gets lost in the […]

On Painful Intercourse.

It’s more common than you think. Apparently 10-16% of women in North America experience this. But, we never talk about it. I’m Thirty years old and I’m only now getting help for something that I’ve ignored since I became sexually active, which was 11 years ago. I have a condition called vaginismus, which is an […]